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Words of assurance to abhor and beware!

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I WILL LOOK INTO IT… OK… You have heard this line time and again.

I have always wondered how much committed is a person when somebody said “I’ll look into it” and what and when to expect of any results based on such an assurance? Over the years, I have heard quite a few say this either conveying that they care or trying to be so, at the least. But there is NO assurance of you have been ‘heard’ and that there is a definitive action to take care of what you have been hoping for.

However, I wouldn’t doubt the person’s character or personality but just beware of the obvious, and manage my own expectations with magnanimity avoiding frustration.

Nevertheless, as I continued to learn the real intent of such assurances, many a occasion, I have begun to abhor them, and decided to never use them even if I can’t find better alternatives.

Some examples here below:

I SEE: Mostly in the air! One is saying nothing, other than acknowledging that the other person heard you something of what of you have said, and little in real terms.

I WILL UPDATE YOU: No commitment to any result or response time-frame or any definitive action.

I WILL COME BACK ON THIS: This too is vague and leaves no clue for when and how.

I THINK THAT’S POSSIBLE: This is still a ‘maybe’ … and at the thought level, and may or may not be considered, no promise yet to act upon yet.

I WILL ADDRESS THAT: Hmmm… diplomatic and high level without any commitment to any committed action or expected result, except that of willingness to be a party to the situation, and get involved.

WE WILL PAY IN A COUPLE OF WEEKS: Take it just as willingness of the party to pay. Usually expect the payment to take more 3 weeks even if they sincerely attempt to making a payment. Yet this is still a rough time estimate as it doesn’t give any sure day/date to expect the payment.

WILL KEEP MY EYES AND EARS OPEN: People generally say this when you reach out or express your situation, mostly when you are looking for a job or additional work/business development. Expect little or no assistance, at least in the near future.

NOTE: As I said above, and I REPEAT here again… I wouldn’t go to the extent of doubting the person’s character or personality who use these words but beware of the obvious, and manage my own expectations with magnanimity avoiding frustration.

Please add more to this that you know of, and educate all of us.

Our Intrinsic Value

I received this following story of lifetime value via a forwarded email almost 15 years ago. I have preserved it for the value it always gave me when ever I have read it. While I can not acknowledge the anonymous writer, I do thank him.

Read on …

A well known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a $20 bill.In the room of 200,he asked,  “Who would like this $20 bill? “Hands started going up. He said, “I am going to give this $20 to one of you but first, let me do this.” He proceeded to crumple the dollar bill up. He then asked, “Who still wants it?” Still the hands were up in the air. “Well,” he replied, “What if I do this?”  And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up,now all crumpled and dirty. “Now who still wants it?” Still the hands went into the air. “My friends, you have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20. Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value.

My notes:

  1. Life’s situations often seek to devalue yourself. Situations such as when you are laid-off, loose a contract or a key income source sort of, or forced to live by underselling yourself or dwell on savings or borrowed money; when future appears dim and rudderless –   NEVER BELITTLE YOURSELF! There are numerous examples that prove that your inner strength will raise you above your outward fate.
  2. When one telephone call, an email  or a kind word of introduction by a friend or acquaintance may perhaps solve your problems, but people appear to have no time or inclination to extend one. When every one in the world, including your loved ones, tend to ignore you, insult you and perhaps write you off as a non-performer, good for nothing or useless. BE PERSISTENT with the hope that your life holds greater potential!
  3. In most or all above situations, your reactive instinct is to do anything to restore what you ‘ve lost. That state of mind may also make you blame others for your problems or claim undue value for self from others good deeds. But STAY MAGNANIMOUS, AS A GIVER!

There is more to your life than what others think of you. Your intrinsic value is your self-esteem (not ego). It is your life. What you stand for. Live it full, as you will only live once!